The Importance Of Being Intentional In Relationships-An ABC Series- F Is For Fear

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, Motherhood, Trials, UncategorizedLeave a Comment

I have been wrestling with the topic of this blog for a few weeks now.  When the idea for this series first came to my heart, I had planned on the topics to be all warm and fuzzy, uplifting and interest peaking, but I’ve been learning along the way that I may have MY plans, but the Lord keeps stirring me to write about things that actually make me quite uncomfortable. I had planned to write about friendship, faithfulness, even forgiveness (knowing that is something I still need to work on) but that nagging feeling just won’t leave my heart.  There’s a different topic that I need to dig into and so this week F is for Fear Fear is something I struggle with greatly. Fear masquerades through my life in many different disguises, but when all is stripped away, I’m faced with the reality of how much fear hinders my life. The bible speaks SO MUCH about being brave instead of fearful, yet this is still something I face every single day. Fear represents a lack of faith and trust, and the devil sure likes to not only magnify my fears, but also throw it in my face that … Read More

The Importance Of Being Intentional In Relationships-An ABC Series- E Is For Expectations

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, UncategorizedLeave a Comment

I want to start this post with a bit of humble honesty about myself. Most of the time when there’s a conflict in our marriage, I’m the problem. I don’t say that to be funny, or proud (I’m no diva) I say that because I want you to understand my heart behind this series. I haven’t been writing this series as someone who has perfected her relationships to the point of writing a how-to blog, but I’m writing this series because I need to be the one to try harder in so many ways. When God first laid the idea for this series on my heart, I had written an A-Z list and formulated a slight plan for each week’s topic. I intended for this week to be about encouragement, but the reality is, this week being encouraging isn’t the part of my character that needs the most work. Instead, this week: E-Is For Expectations This week I really need to work not only the way I set my expectations, but how I deal with them when they are met or not. On Monday of this week, I asked my husband to do something for me. It wasn’t that I … Read More

The Importance Of Being Intentional In Relationships-An ABC Series-D Is For Date Nite

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, Motherhood, UncategorizedLeave a Comment

A wise person once said that love is spelled T.I.M.E, and I wholeheartedly agree with that.  Time is one of the most valuable things we can give to someone else, yet it is one of the things that most of us have very little to spare.  We all have the same 24 hours in a day, but those 24 hours look different for every person and family.  Maybe you are the sole provider for your family, so you work long hours or multiple jobs to try and make ends meet.  Maybe you are a student and you spend HOURS studying or in class.  Maybe you are a stay-at-home mom, raising a child (or several.) Maybe you are a retiree, and/or empty-nester and volunteer somewhere.  Whatever your season of life, and whatever your days look like, we all spend our free time, on what matters the most to us. To me it feels like our culture has everyone running in different directions constantly, and it’s difficult to foster close relationships with people, when you are neglecting quality time with one another. Maybe you aren’t in a romantic relationship, but it’s been a really long time since you’ve gone to coffee with your best … Read More

The Importance Of Being Intentional In Relationships- An ABC Series- C Is For Communication

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, Motherhood, UncategorizedLeave a Comment

Say what you mean, but don’t say it mean. ~Some convicting quote I found on the internet-origin unknown   I hope you have spent the last two weeks really trying to be intentional in the relationships that are most important to you.  I’m sure there have been times that it was difficult, or times you thought it wasn’t worth it, but it is my prayer that your efforts will make a difference no only in the way you think about the people that matter the most in your life, but it also improves your overall relationships. This week C-Is For Communication Communication is such an important thing in relationships, and also such a multi-faceted topic, I feel like I could write several blogs about this topic alone.  I’m going to try and do my best to touch on several points in one post.  I hope this message isn’t so long-winded that I lose you on this one, I just feel there is a lot to cover on the topic of communication. We are smack-dab in the middle of an era that is connected to anyone and anyone with the mere swipe of a fingertip across a screen. Yet, in the … Read More

The Importance Of Being Intentional In Relationships-An ABC Series- B Is For Building Up

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, Motherhood, Uncategorized, WomanhoodLeave a Comment

Relationships don’t thrive by chance. I know that media can often paint an untrue portrait, showing love, romance, and friendship being effortless, and always enjoyable, but in real life-that’s not the case. Healthy, mutually enjoyable relationships generally require intentional interaction to endure the test of time. The level of intentional effort required to keep things mutually enjoyable, is unique to each relationship-some require more, or different things, but all relationships benefit from intentional investments and interactions with one another.   In last week’s blog I talked about the importance of how we think about the people that matter to us.  For me, it’s easy to think about negative things, especially if I’ve been hurt along the way.  Sometimes I get selfish and think the other person should try harder for one reason or another, or there are even times I get ungrateful, and take things for granted.  Last week I challenged myself, and those of you who follow my blog, to intentionally think of the things you admire about the people that are important in your life.  I realize that in some circumstances, thinking of 3 admirable things may have been extremely difficult for you.   While there may be others who are able to write a novel or two about those they … Read More

Before and After

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Life is full of before and afters. I’ve learned that more and more over the last year and a half. Each person has defining moments in their life that left them different than they were before.   Your before and afters may look different than the next persons, but each unique experience is the opportunity for God to shape you into who He wants you to be.   Are you who you were before you finished school? Are you who you were before you met your significant other? Are you who you were before you had children? Are you who you were before they told you, you couldn’t have children? Are you who you were before you lost a child? Are you who you were before the adoption? Are you who you were before the deployment? Are you who you were before the accident? Are you who you were before the weight loss? Are you who you were before the addiction? Are you who you were before the affair or divorce? Are you who you were before the diagnosis? Are you who you were before your trust was broken? Are you who you were before they died?   Chances are, … Read More

What My Husband Has Taught Me About A Father’s Love

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, TrialsLeave a Comment

I love you, far more than I have ever loved anyone in all my life, and even after all these years, there are times that still terrifies me.  You know me better than I know myself.  You care for me more passionately than anyone ever has.  You put me first in every part of your existence, but there’s still that little place inside of me; way deep down in the ugliest and most insecure parts of my heart, that’s afraid someday I won’t be enough for you. I’m afraid that I’m just one mistake away from ruining everything. I’m afraid that someday you’ll leave me too, because at some point along the way everyone else has.   If I was a better daughter, maybe my dad would have stayed. Maybe if my grades were better, he would follow though with his promises. Maybe if I was more gifted he would have reasons to show up for the things that were important to me. Maybe if I was more obedient he would have been proud of the way I turned out, and decided that he did want to be a part of my life after all. But I wasn’t, and he left, … Read More

Love Is In The Little Things

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, UncategorizedLeave a Comment

The garage door closed behind our vehicle, signaling my husbands departure for the day, but no more than 30 seconds later, my cellphone started to ring.   It was him.   He’s always my favorite phone call. I answered the call immediately, thinking he may have forgotten something (since he had just left) but it wasn’t him that had forgotten something…it was me.  His call was just to ask me, if I remembered to take my medicine for the day. UGH!!! Of course I didn’t…why can’t I remember that one simple thing?  I’m supposed to take it every morning, but mornings are hard, and often I forget.  Many days he will bring me my medicine, and my favorite jug of water, since I’m so forgetful, but he doesn’t just hand me the pills to take, he extends the straw in my direction, then drops the pills into my mouth. That day he didn’t bring me my medicine, so he called, because he loves me, and wants me to be taken care of.   His one little phone call, and his almost daily distribution of thyroid medicine remind me, that love is in the little things.   A different day, I stood barefoot on … Read More

When You’ve Fallen Out Of Love

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, Redemption, TrialsLeave a Comment

No one ever plans to fall out of love. It’s just one of those things that happen gradually, over the course of time. Maybe you stop putting in the effort you used to, or have been hurt along the way, and by the time you realize that things have changed it, it seems impossible to get things back to the way they used to be. Realizing you’ve fallen out of love can be a painful, and sobering realization, but it’s not to late to turn things around.   When love is new, you don’t care who’s watching your interactions. Your admiration for one another is obvious to everyone around you. The sound of your loved ones name, is on your lips as often as you exhale, and spending time together is something you just can’t do often enough. Every waking moment, of every single day, doesn’t feel like enough time with one another, and late nights followed by early mornings become a part of your new routine. Every midday yawn is worth being with the one you love.   When you’re newly in love, you willingly and eagerly go out of your way to show you care for each other. … Read More

Glue and Paper: Lessons in Purity

Carol DunfeeFaith, MarriageLeave a Comment

Glue can be a great thing when you need something to stick. It holds precious pictures in a scrapbook. It reattaches the corner our kids knocked off our dining room chair. Glue can also be destructive…like when my kiddo smeared glue in her math book. Or when my favorite picture was glued into a child’s art project. No amount of careful manipulation could prevent the inevitable tears. Try gluing two pieces of paper together. The glue makes them stronger and sturdier together. Then try tearing them apart. The glue will shred the two papers as they rip apart. Like glue, sex can strengthen a marriage bond, carry a married couple through hard times, and of course, produce beautiful, sweet babies. Misused sex, however, becomes terribly destructive.  God designed sex as a gift to marriage. It is wonderful and beautiful. Satan wants to manipulate God’s gifts until they become perverted, twisted, and destructive. The same glue that made the two papers stronger can also cause the papers’ destruction. Satan doesn’t want us to be whole. He wants us to be torn and wounded by casual sex, sexual abuse, pornography, and sex outside of marriage. The more we misuse sex, the more … Read More

From the moment I met you, I knew I was going to fall in love with you

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Fall in love with you

This is one of my favorite times of the year. I say that a lot, because I have a lot of favorite times of year, but this really IS one of my most favorite times of all.  This time of year is my favorite because this is when our love story began. Next week makes 16 years since we’ve been “us” and even though I’ve loved him for more than half of my life now, it feels like it was just yesterday when he held my hand for the first time.   We were only 15 years old when our story began. We were merely two kids who knew little about life, but two kids who loved each other with a love that was solid and would withstand all that life had in store for us, even if people didn’t understand at the time.    We dated in a time before texting (imagine that) back when people talked in person or on the phone. The very first time we ever REALLY talked to each other, we talked for over 6 hours! Even now, all of these later, we could sit up and talk late into the night. We don’t even … Read More

The Power of God’s Word

Heather GillisBible Study, Faith, Marriage4 Comments

I will never forget the first time I opened my Bible to read for the first time.  I didn’t know where to start or what to read.  I felt overwhelmed and lost.  There were so many words and pages.  How did I even begin? Once I opened the Scriptures and started reading, a whole new world was open for me.  At times I put prayer and reading the Bible on the back burner.  I let life get the best of me.  I was distracted by everything the world offered me.  The truth is, I’ve been a Christian my whole life and didn’t truly see the value in opening up the Scriptures and reading them until brokenness entered my life. Nothing makes a person examine their priorities more than when tragedy enters their life (Click to Tweet).   Tragedy makes us listen and pay attention.  My brokenness exposed what was I really filling my life with?  What was the meaning and purpose of my life? The Bible took on a whole new meaning in my life once tragedy got my attention.  The Bible verses I read became living and breathing in my life.  Opening the Scriptures is where I really met Jesus.  … Read More

Why is Prayer so Important in Marriage?

Heather GillisFaith, Marriage, Prayer & Fasting, Trials2 Comments

Marriage is one of the biggest blessings in life, yet 40%-50% of marriages end up in divorce.  If marriage is such a blessing, then why do so many marriages fail?  I think there are many factors at play–a person’s background and upbringing, parents who had a loving successful marriage, children, poor role models, trials, dysfunctional habits.  But I think one of the most important factors that help couples STAY together is PRAYER. A study written by the National Association of Marriage Enhancement stated out of 1156 couples, those who prayed together on a daily basis less than 1% ended in divorce.  The study went even further to analyze what the couples did at home together.   Were they apart of the same denomination?  Did they attend church together?  Did they share the same beliefs and values?  Did they do any worship activities at home? The study found there was a higher level of marital satisfaction when the couples shared the same religious practices at home which included reading the Bible together.  Unfortunately despite knowing this information, only 4% of Christian couples pray together on a daily basis.  The important message from the study was if you want a strong marriage that … Read More

The Best Marriage Advice I Got From My Pastor

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It was last September when I honestly felt I was losing my mind. Multiple issues had compounded between my husband and I, and one day I just couldn’t take it any more. I couldn’t figure out where to go next. Concentrating on anything was a struggle because I couldn’t think straight. I cried constantly for several days, in the car, in the kitchen washing dishes, under my desk at work. It scared me that I couldn’t seem to get back to the normal me. It was then I knew I had to talk to someone who could help me get control of my brain and guide me in making right decisions. So I called my pastor. We hadn’t spoken about my marriage before, so I was a little nervous. I didn’t want to paint my husband out as a bad guy, and I didn’t want to blubber in front of my pastor. He was very understanding, and reminded me that many men are hard-headed, yet there is always hope. He listened to my concerns with no judgement, then gave some advice I have held onto for the past 9 months. My pastor told me: 1) Wives are to be submissive … Read More

How To Pray For Couples Who Are Struggling To Stay Married

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Since coming clean, many people have reached out to my husband and I lately to check on us. We’re doing much better lately, and I know it’s because of all the support and prayers coming our way. God responds when his people bind together and pray over each other. I considered this week that sometimes when people struggle with various issues, their friends and family don’t always know how to pray for them. God deals in specifics, so I did a little brainstorming on what I think would be essential to pray over a couple struggling to stay married. When we petition God to stop a relationship from unraveling, we can pray the couple would find: Unity and peace. Pray against strife and discord in the marriage. The Scripture says it’s good when God’s people dwell together in unity, for He will bestow a blessing (Psalm 133). We are to strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, and live in peace (2 Cor 13:11). Pray there would be no division between them, but they would be united in mind and thought (1 Cor 1:10). May they refuse to stir up dissension by talking negatively about each … Read More

When Motherhood & Ministry Collide

Rosalynn LasleyFaith, Marriage, MotherhoodLeave a Comment

I haven’t written a new blog post in several weeks, and if I’m being honest, that really bothers me some days.  I have committed to contributing to this blog and serving in this ministry on a weekly basis, but as time goes on, and my seasons of life change, sometimes motherhood and ministry collide.  I have good intentions, I have a brain swirling with thoughts that just beg to be shared, but sometimes it’s really hard to make sense of anything at all when you haven’t slept in a really long time, and you have a screaming toddler in your lap slapping the keys on the keyboard faster than you can push her little hands away. The insecurities deep within me shout the loudest in times like these. “Look at you! You signed up for this, and once again you can’t follow through. All of these other women have busy lives! They have families, jobs outside of the home, and other commitments just like you…so why can’t you keep up? They keep up! They’re faithful week after week, but then there’s you. There you are writing something last minute again,  as night creeps into another day.  You say it’s because it’s the only time you have, … Read More

The Wedding Vows I Never Planned To Keep

Rosalynn LasleyMarriage3 Comments

Last night my husband left the house with all three of our children in tow. He knew that today is the day my blog is posted and it’s hard for me to focus on writing when I’m hiding from my children, trying to write. Yes there’s something sacred in a little “me” time, but there’s something very unholy about blogging for the Lord, while shouting “CAN YOU NOT LEAVE ME ALONE FOR ONE MOMENT?! WHERE IS YOUR DAD?!!” No sooner than the garage door closed signaling their departure, I decided to do what any tired woman with a few extra moments does…I turned on my favorite romantic comedy. Our wedding video. Now, it’s not the original version that I watched last night. We’ve been married long enough to need the “digitally remastered” version. Our original wedding video was VHS.  We no longer own a VCR so after some rummaging, I found and popped in the dvd of our wedding. The dvd copy was a Christmas gift one year. No sooner than the music started on the disk, I began to cry. Everything about life was so different back then.  Our wedding was a humble affair. I wore flip-flops with my … Read More

The Secret to the Proverbs 31 Woman

Sarah OlsonFaith, MarriageLeave a Comment

Proverbs 31:17-18 (Amplified Bible translation) – “She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong and firm. She tastes and sees that her gain from work [with and for God] is good; her lamp goes not out, but it burns on continually through the nigh [of trouble, privation, or sorrow, warning away fear, doubt, and distrust].” In many conversations I have had with women of all ages, when reading and discussing Proverbs 31:10-31, I have found a common thread: “HOW?! HOW does she do all of that?! I can’t do all of that! I’ll NEVER be able to achieve the Proverbs 31 woman profile!” I’m included in such thoughts at times as I search out the best method to begin my pursuit of the character traits listed in Proverbs 31, but I discovered a secret amidst my search. Are you interested in the secret? I sure was! As I prayed and prayed about the traits of a Proverbs 31 woman, I sought out Scripture further. For those learning how to navigate the Scriptures, when you read something from the Old Testament, it is important and beneficial to search the New … Read More

Marriage Is A Lot Like Bodybuilding

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During a conversation with a pastor last week, a thought came upon my heart.  Marriage is a lot like bodybuilding.  It might seem odd that I would compare marriage to bodybuilding especially considering that I haven’t exercised on purpose, in years. The last time I went to the gym my 11 year old, was a newborn, and the last time I went for a brisk walk, I was hoping to go into labor with my middle child (she’ll be 6 next month.) I followed every one of those miles around the track that summer, with a few unproductive contractions, and a “love it” sized ice cream from Coldstone.  Some might see that as counter productive, but whatever.  There was peanut butter in the ice cream, and there’s protein in peanut butter.  We all know that protein is good for you, so I see that as a win. If I’m being honest though, exercise really isn’t my thing. It’s difficult, it’s exhausting, it takes work, it leaves you sweaty, the results take forever.  Being unfit and even lazy is easy, but exercise is hard work and I’m just not willing to put in the effort, but even if I’m not really into fitness I still know enough to make the … Read More