“You are my fire, my one desire. Believe when I say, I want it that way…”
I had just gone to the restroom when the lyrics sounded on the speakers above my head. And I started to chuckle, because I knew it was my husband. We were in a restaurant with a jukebox, and he must have run over to start the song when I left the table.
When I came out, he was waiting for me, innocently mouthing the words like any true Backstreet Boys groupie.
And then we both burst out laughing.
That day marked a moment when a set of lyrics put to music became ‘our song’.
Couples always have their own little intimacies, shared just between the two of them. Specific words or phrases they speak only to each other. Different foods or eateries that hold special memories. Momentos or trinkets that link to a happy event. Certain songs that carry significant meaning about their relationship.
But what of our relationship with Jesus, our Champion, our Savior, our Redeemer? What special words, trinkets, or songs do we share with Him that signifies our love for each other?
When I first heard the concept of a ‘divine, sacred romance’ with Jesus, I thought it was just plain weird.
Yet as Christ began to woo me over the years and speak sweet words to my heart, I began to experience just how real it is. As part of the church, we are the Bride of Christ! He loves the church so much, He gave up His life for us! (Eph 5:25)
God meant for us to have an intimate relationship with His Son on both an emotional and spiritual level. Society has twisted the words ‘intimacy’ and ‘romance’ to focus on the physical, but that is only a fraction of God’s definition. Relationships are about unity and oneness, sharing expressions of love in a variety of ways, similar to a parent and child bond, or the connection between best friends. That’s what Jesus wants with each of us!
Once I was able to reframe the definitions of ‘intimacy’ and ‘romance’ to exclude anything meant for the bedroom of a married couple, I began to see my relationship with Jesus from perspective of purity. I took notice of all the ways He showed me His affection, and I began to find ways to show my affection for Him.
- It’s about spending time together. Talking. Laughing. Crying. Doing life together.
- It’s about the wonder and awe of just how amazing He is. There is none like Him.
- It’s about His protective nature, His fierce devotion, and how He tenderly watches out for me.
- It’s about feeling totally and completely loved, no mater what any human being may think of me.
And I’ve found it’s not weird at all.
Like every couple relationship differs based on personality, so does the romance between Christ and His Bride. Certain intimacies will touch the hearts of His daughters differently. He’ll say and do things that have specific meaning to us personally.
For example, whenever my mom saw a deer, she said it was a reminder of how much Jesus loved her. It was their thing. We lived in the woods when I was growing up, so I remember her getting teary every time she saw a deer. Now I understand.
One thing He does for me is that He wakes me almost every morning with a line from a praise tune. It comes to my mind before my feet hit the floor, and I can’t help but smile at the little game we play. It sets up my day, a reminder of how special I am to Him. Each night I wonder what He’s going to whisper to my heart the next morning. Oh, the thrills of intimacy!
Music has a place in every relationship. Over the years, Jesus and I have had a few songs that I considered ours, just me and Him. Songs that move me to tears because I feel so loved. Songs that fill me with joy because of how incredible He is.
Right now this is one I consider “Our Song”: We Dance from Bethel Music, sung by Stephanie Frizzel Gretzinger: “You steady me, slow and sweet. We sway, You take the lead and I will follow…”
What’s your song? How do you worship Jesus and show Him how much you love Him?
“Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.” Song of Solomon 8:6