How to deal with Loss

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How to Deal with Loss
When the unexpected happens and we are faced with death, how do we deal with that?
The past couple of days, I have witnessed a family member die from illness, and a tragic accident that killed a young teenager in our community.
Life can be brutal sometimes.  How do we explain things like this?  How do we function?
When things like this happen, it is hard not to look at our own life and make sense of these unfortunate circumstances.  For me, I have reflected on my past of when I lost my mother at a young age due to a car accident.
Growing up without my biological mom, life was hard.  I do not wish that on anyone.  To this day after 31 years of not talking to her, hearing her voice, hugging her, or seeing her, makes me sad.  I do long for her and I always will.   However, I have comfort in knowing that she is alive in her new home called HEAVEN!
With death there is sadness, pain, suffering, grieving, unfairness, and much more.  However,  knowing JESUS is the answer to finding COMFORT, JOY, LOVE, and getting through this ultimate LONG SUFFERING.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.”  Galatians 5:22
This is probably one of my favorite verses.  Knowing that JESUS left the Holy Spirit on Earth to help us through times like this.  His love comes through people, whether it is a stranger or the community coming together to pray for each other, delivering messages of hope, providing gifts of love, comforting each other through a hug or a smile.
The impact of death can be greater than what we can ever imagine.  By this I mean, losing a loved one, just doesn’t mean it impacts only you, but others as well.  The process we go through when we are grieving is important, because we can find hope in Jesus.  The hope is where we find His comfort.  The comfort is where we find peace.  The peace is where we find His everlasting love.  The love is where we can grow in our faith in Him.
I learned this from my aunt.  When I was 10 years old and at my mom’s funeral, my aunt knelt down and whispered to me, “Erin, all you have to do is close your eyes and you can talk to your mom anytime.  She is with Jesus and together they will hear your prayers.” For me, I couldn’t imagine my mom not being HEAVEN.  I knew where she was.  At first, I would just pray to her and overtime I would identify my prayers to praying to Jesus.  He would always answer.  My prayers would be answered, by Jesus placing many mothers in my life.  Wherever I went or whatever season I was in, I would always have a mother like figured in my life.  I have developed many relationships with people.  My grief has now turned to joy, a joy that will last a lifetime and more.
“Let my cry come before You, O Lord; Give me understanding according to Your word.”  Psalms 119: 169
I know Jesus never left me, He helped raise me, provided for my needs, celebrated my accomplishments, picked me up when I needed dusting off, and carried me when I needed to be carried.
He is the love of my life and my comforter and healer.  He can be there for you too.  He is there for all of us.  We just have to acknowledge Him, and accept Him.  Know matter what you have been through, He is here for you.  He can turn your pain into gold, and teach you things you never thought possible.  Overtime and through the process you can find His precious gifts He has longed to give to you.
To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, And a time to pluck what is planted;
A time to kill, And a time to heal;
A time to break down, And a time to build up;
A time to weep, And a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, And a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, And a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to gain, And a tie to lose;
A time to keep, And a time to throw away;
A time to tear, And a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, And a time to speak;
A time to love, And a time to hate;
A time of war, And a time of peace.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-18
In Him Always,




Mom and Erin (Erin’s 10th Birthday)

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