She complimented my son. She said he packed the Operation Christmas Child boxes well, didn’t get sidetracked by friends, worked hard at making it all fit nicely together.
And my mama heart swelled.
That’s what we want to hear, right moms? That when our children are away from us, they behave with honor and integrity. That somewhere along the line, we did something right.
The scripture tells us in Hebrews 3:13 to ‘encourage one another daily’ so we don’t become hardened by sins deceit.
A kind word can make all the difference. Like when I assured a friend of mine that she was doing a good job raising her daughter, even though all she could see were her failures. Tears burst from her eyes as she struggled to accept my compliment. I had no idea she needed the encouragement until I saw her reaction.
“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” Proverbs 25:11
The other day, I witnessed a mom failure. And while I tried to help, all I succeeded in doing was drawing attention to her mistake and telling her how to do it better next time. That would have been the perfect time for me to hold my tongue, overlook her mistake, and then say an encouraging word once the child had left the room.
Sometimes it’s hard being a mom. All of us could make a list of the mistakes we made as a mom. Children are born with a sinful, selfish nature, and it can be a challenge to teach them how to overcome their flesh and put others first. We don’t always get it right. We let our kids misbehave because we’re tired, we forget to ask God for help, or we just don’t know how to handle the situation.
But sometimes, we do get it right. We pray for our kids, seek parenting advice, take them to church and try to teach them God’s ways. We don’t let them hit each other. We show them how to share. We instruct them in good manners.
God didn’t ask us to be perfect, He asked us to turn to Him moment by moment. He is our refuge and strength. He gives us the patience and the wisdom we need to be a good mom.
And since we can all relate to the challenges of motherhood, why can’t we speak life to each other?
Moms, our challenge this week is to find a few other mama’s who could use a smile and a kind word.
No comparison, just love.
No judgment, just grace.
No advice, just reassurance.
Let’s ignore the areas where other mama’s could use a little improvement – we can pray about those things when we get alone with God. Instead, let’s encourage each other in the the things we’re doing right.
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up…” Thessalonians 5:11