God’s Love Language

Carol DunfeeFaith, Prayer & FastingLeave a Comment

You might have heard of the five love languages, based on a book by Gary Chapman. Some people feel love through a hug. Some feel love when their husband washes their car. Others understand love through a long conversation. Or maybe love is communicated while shoveling snow together. Or maybe it’s a sweet, sentimental note that does the trick. We all understand and receive love differently.

Relationships are enriched or sucked dry depending on the language we use to communicate love. For example, some women just adore flowers. A bouquet of flowers melts their hearts into a puddle. For me? Not so much. But give me a written note expressing love and appreciation? I’m all over that!

Have you ever wondered what God’s love language is?

As the Creator of love, He responds to all five.

  • He comes near when we praise Him with our words and songs. (Psalm 100:4)
  • He appreciates our service to the “least of these”. (Matthew 25:40)
  • He created us to spend time in His presence. (Psalm 140:13)
  • He reveals some of His plans to us so we can join in. (John 15:15)
  • He laid His hands on little children to bless them. (Matthew 19:13)

He loves each one of us, no matter what we do. We can’t earn His love. We can un-earn His love.

However, there seems to be a special Divine affection that comes from the love-language of obedience.

Our obedience draws out the Father’s love. In Jesus’ last conversation with His disciples, He repeated this concept over and over.

Obedience demonstrates true love.

Obedience is an act of worship. It reveals that we love God more than we love ourselves. It demonstrates to the Father that we are willing to give up our own convenience to follow His lead. It requires that we sacrifice something–our time, our energy, our ambitions, our lives. It hurts. Obedience is not easy.

If you love me, you will keep my commandments.John 14:15 ESV

Jesus to make Himself known to those who obey His Words.

How can we ask for Jesus to reveal Himself to us when we won’t obey what He has already revealed? I cannot ask the Holy Spirit to bring me great and wonderful opportunities if I don’t obey Him when he tells me to take a detour between the store and home. I will never see all the wonderful works of God if I don’t obey Him in the little things He has already shown me!

Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.John 14:21 ESV

The Father gives His presence to those who obey.

Our obedient acts of worship usher us into God’s presence. Jesus promised that He and the Father would “make our home” with those who truly love Him. Could there be a greater gift? What on earth can bother us when we live in God’s presence? Oh, how I want God to feel at home with me! I want to be part of His household!

Jesus answered [Judas], “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.”John 14:23 ESV
So I must ask myself…
  • Do I really love God?
  • Do I follow my worship with obedience?
  • Do I prove my surrender by following the Holy Spirit’s guidance?
  • Do I serve others as Jesus did?
  • Do I study the Bible with the intention to obey?
Dear Father, I fall so short of deserving Your love. Day after day, I insist on holding on to my way instead of following Yours. Empower me to obey you when it is hard, when it hurts, and when it’s not popular. I know that nothing I give You will ever come back empty. You will shower me with Your undeserved love. You will bring me into Your presence. You will make Your home with me. Thank You. Thank You for Your never-ending, unfailing love. Amen.

About Carol Dunfee

Carol is a wife, mom, piano teacher, and blogger for Alaska Christian Women’s Ministry. Having grown up in church, life made her dissatisfied with empty religious traditions and trite answers. She discovered that Jesus alone is the way to real life and true contentment. Ever stumbling and learning herself, she invites her readers to experience God’s love and forgiveness like never before. Read more at CarolDunfee.com.

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