Come Alongside Others

Heather GillisFaith, TrialsLeave a Comment

Have you ever wondered what you can do or say to someone who has just lost a loved one? What we say and don’t say to those who grieve, can make a big difference in the lives of those who are going through hard times. Sometimes there are no words that can take away a person’s pain of their loss, but there is something you can always do.

You can always love.

Your Loving actions can have the most impact in the lives of those who are grieving. One of the biggest lessons we learned after our son passed away five years ago, was to share the love we have in our hearts for him with others. When we do, it helps us come alongside others who have gone through the same thing just like God has done for us.

“He Comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us.” 2 Corinthians 1:4 MSG
How to Come Alongside Others who are Going through Hard Times:

1. Through Prayer- You can always Pray. Prayer is the most powerful thing you can do. Pray for their strength, their comfort, peace and hope. Pray with the one who is hurting or let them know you are praying for them. It helps encourage and let them know you are doing something.

2. Be Available- Being available to listen and be there for that person helps tremendously. It lets them know you are there for them during their tough time. It lets them know you care, that they have a friend with a listening ear.

3. Send a Card or Message- Sending a note or a text message with Kind words, words of encouragement, Bible verses or prayers is a great way to come alongside others who are hurting. A 10 second text message can make all the difference in a person’s day. It may be the encouraging message of hope one needs.

4. Make a Meal- Create a meal sign up for those who are going through hard times. Even though meals don’t take away the person’s pain, it does help lighten everyday burdens and allows them more time to deal with what they are going through. It lets them know you care and are thinking of them.

5. Give something from the heart– Nothing gives a person more hope than when something is given from your heart. Whether it be a smile, a hug or something you made, a small gesture of kindness makes a big impact in someone’s life. Give a message of encouragement. Give a message of hope. Give a picture of what heaven looks like. It doesn’t cost anything to give someone kindness, but can be the very thing that helps someone get through their day.

Have you gone through difficult times?

What did someone do for you that helped you get through what you were going through?

What has helped you get through hard times?

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Be the difference in someone’s day. Do something kind for someone who is going through hard times. Have a Blessed week!

Prayer- Dear God, You know our struggles of what we are going through. I pray you will be with all those who are going through hard times. I pray they will allow your love to fill them with the strength, comfort, peace, joy and hope that they need to get them through what they are going through. I pray you will put the the right people in their lives to encourage them, lift them up and give them hope. May the God of hope bring you peace as you trust in him. Amen

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About Heather Gillis

Heather received her master’s degree in Nurse Anesthesia at Villanova University. She works full time as a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist at a surgery center in Alaska. She is author of “Waiting for Heaven: Finding Beauty in the Pain and the Struggle,” and a contributor for “Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Joy of Less.” She also writes weekly Christian devotionals on her blog Heather and her husband Mac, reside in Alaska with their two living children. When she is not working, writing, or taking care of the house, you can find Heather running the trails, reading, taking the kids to gymnastics and choir, crafting with her daughter, building legos with their son, camping with her family, spending time with friends or volunteering wherever God takes her! To read her blog, learn more about Heather and her ministry visit

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