Exhausted, I sat sobbing on the porch in the crisp evening air as my husband sat just inside working on his paper. (I had come home shortly before, flushed and trying not to be argumentative about small, petty things that he couldn’t control. To avoid an unneeded argument, I told him I was going to sit outside and enjoy the weather to which he gently replied, “Okay, sweetie.”).
Through my sobs, I heard him suddenly get up and come outside, floppy-sock footed and wrapped in a blanket. He plopped himself down beside me and wrapped the blanket and his strong arms around me and held me tightly. I completely lost it, shoulders slumped, silent tears, snorting sniffle.
A strong, bold voice came from my man as he pled with God for my heart and our marriage and ministry – it was as if his voice was mine! The cries of my heart came alive as I listened to his earnest prayer. I straightened up, still sniffling, but feeling so much more alive and brave than I ever had before. A true picture of intercession had just displayed itself before me. A true oneness of marriage had suddenly become so real to me that I could hardly contain my joy and deep love for the man sitting next to me.
My husband didn’t get any more of his paper done that night. For the rest of the evening, we sat out on the porch talking and laughing, being silly, enjoying the stars, and reminiscing of our childhood, unaware of anyone or anything else around us. Sometimes, the world just needs to stop spinning; life just needs to come to a halt. And for us, it was that night out on the porch under the star studded sky.
I learned a lesson on marital oneness that night as my husband embraced me. Many times, oneness in marriage is referred to in the physical context of sex – a man and a woman coming together, creating a picture of God’s creation and original mandate for marriage. However, there is a spiritual oneness in marriage as well. Now, don’t get me wrong, spiritual oneness occurs in sex because the physical and spiritual are not separate from each other. But there’s an even deeper level spiritual oneness touches – that of intercession.
Romans 8:26, “In the same way the Spirit also joins to help in our weakness, because we do not know what to pray for as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with unspoken groanings.”
Marriage is a beautiful picture of the body of Christ in action. My husband came alongside me and prayed for and with me in a time when I was broken and unable to do so. God used him to reach out and physically minister to my spirit and soul. In that moment, God’s presence was so very tangible that both my husband and I were deeply connected by the Holy Spirit.
I pray your marital oneness is truly blessed. In Jesus’ name, AMEN.