We are a population of hurting people. There are hurting people everywhere.
The list goes on and on.
Pain doesn’t limit itself to a particular race, economical status, political party, religion, denomination. Pain isn’t limited to a particular side of town, community, or state. Pain is not even limited to a particular country or continent. Pain is universal. Pain doesn’t care who you are, or what you’ve already been through. Pain knows no boundaries. There are hurting people EVERYWHERE! Literally everywhere.
The thing about life is that we are often so caught up in our own struggles and hurts, just trying to make it through another moment of another day, that we neglect to comfort those among us who are hurting as well. We see so much pain, suffering, and hurt on a daily basis we’ve become desensitized to it. Another terrorist attack, another couple calling it quits, another sick person, another fundraiser for someone who has lost it all. Another diagnosis, another cry for help, another prayer request, it’s always something. We’ve become desensitized and grow less compassionate every day.
We each have our own personal circumstances that often bring us to our knees, and in our desperate attempts to make it through our own trials, we’ve stopped being burdened for one another. We get inconvenienced when people need us, or when they aren’t fulfilling our expectations. We’ve stopped hurting when other people are hurting. We’ve stopped praying genuinely for one another. We’ve stopped loving people through their hardships as well as we could, if we truly saw each other as hurting people. We’ve stopped caring like we should, we’ve stopped comforting one another.
It’s hard to see beyond ourselves and our own hurts. Many times we feel as though we’re hardly keeping our own heads above water, but my friends, we need each other, especially when we are hurting. We need to come along-side one another and comfort one another a lot more often than we do.
We need to be emphatetic.
We need to be compassionate.
We need to be kind.
We need to care that people are hurting, even if we don’t understand their pain.
We need to be emphatetic, not just when it’s convenient, not just when the situation directly involves us. We need to look someone in the eyes and know that they too, are fighting a battle we may know nothing about. Being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes every once in a while, can give you a better understanding on how to love them through times when they are hurting.
We need to be compassionate when someone’s situation is different than our own. We also need to be compassionate when someone is experiencing hurt that is familiar to us. Just because we’ve been there, doesn’t mean they are going to deal with it the same way we have.
We need to be kind. Sometimes the people that are the hardest to be kind to, are the ones that have been, or are currently hurting the most. A little kindness can go a very long way.
We need to care that people are hurting even when we don’t understand their pain. Sometimes in our most painful times in life, just knowing that someone cares, even when they don’t understand, means more than anything.
We need to comfort one another in this difficult world. If we spent more time comforting one another not just in the “big” things, but the small things as well, there may be a whole lot less hurting people. We may see more people being encouraged even when the going gets tough. Sometimes all you need is someone to come along-side you and say “I may not understand, but I still care.”
How do we comfort one another?
Maybe we can take the time to make a quick phone call just to say “hey, I’m thinking about you and care what you’re going through.” Maybe invite someone to lunch or for a cup of coffee. Maybe offer a hug, and a few words of encouragement. Maybe give some grace when you feel like a person could have done better. Maybe you can help provide a meal, or help with child care for someone that needs it. Maybe you can go with someone to a difficult appointment, or help them pick up their groceries. Maybe you can join hands with them and pray.
Even when you feel like you don’t have a lot to offer, you can lift them up in prayer, to the One who has everything to offer.
He is the ultimate comforter.
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” II Corinthians 1:3-4 NKJV
It is my prayer as we continue through this week and beyond, that we see the world around us with a different perspective. I pray that we will see the hurt in people all around us, and that we will act on the opportunity to comfort one another.
In His Love,