Tell Me About You Daddy: Forgiveness

Rosalynn LasleyPrayer & Fasting, RedemptionLeave a Comment

Forgiveness is something that has always been hard for me to understand, especially when it involves my dad.  God laid it on my heart about two weeks ago that I was supposed to write about forgiveness but I struggled because I didn’t want to write as a hypocrite. How can I write about forgiving someone when I’m not sure I truly have? Once again a blog topic had me on my knees before the cross.  God is good like that.

I’ve been praying more about this topic than I have probably any of the others and it was in prayer one morning a few days ago as I was driving to work when I had one of those “Ah-Ha” moments.  I love it when God does that.  I love that He’s using this ministry to show me where I need to grow. 

One of the concepts I have struggled so much with when it comes to forgiveness really boils down to trying to forgive in my own strength.  There are times when people hurt us along the way and forgiveness seems literally impossible.  I know what the bible commands me to do.  I’m commanded to forgive, but how in the world do you forgive someone who’s not sorry? How in the world do you forgive someone who does the same things over and over without being sorry? How do you separate forgiveness, and allowing a behavior to continue? That’s when God really opened my eyes. 

The first thing I did was ask with all of my heart “How can I forgive him when he’s not sorry? How can I forgive him when he hurts me over and over again?” God said “just as I have forgiven you. Remember those times you knowingly hurt Me, knowingly sinned against Me and weren’t sorry? Remember those ways when you have hurt me over and over with the same behavior? I have forgiven you. I have forgiven you before you were even sorry.” It was then that it all made sense to me. He didn’t point that out to me to rub those times in my face, but to show me in a very extraordinary what grace and forgiveness really look like.  I realized that have been trying to forgive in my own strength.  There are years worth of hurts I have never asked God to help me forgive and move passed.  Sometimes when life hurts, He’s the only one who can really heal our wounds. 

The second thing I did was really looked in depth, with an open heart to what is commanded of me.  There are times I have literally rolled my eyes at the thought of forgiveness on certain things, even when it came to Gods word.  I’ve heard many scriptures about forgiveness, ironically at times being quoted by the one messing up so I’ve hardened my heart to what His truth says.  What His truth commands of me. 

Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.
Colossians 3:12-13
 

31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Ephesians 4:31-32


21 Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”
22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.
Matthew 18:21-22
 
SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN?!
 
How can that be? That’s a lot! We’ve gotta be passed that by now… but what about all of the times He has forgiven me?
 
That’s another concept that completely baffles me.  How can He love me so much that He can forgive ME, over and over and over again? What about when I break His heart? What about when I’m not even sorry yet? What about the times He’s warned me? What about the times I’ve promised I wouldn’t mess up anymore and then did? What about when I’m the prodigal daughter? What about when I’m like Jonah and running from Him? How can God possibly love me so much that He forgives ME?
 
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 
1John 1:9
 

Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.”
And they divided His garments and cast lots.
Luke 23:34
 
 

The Lord is merciful and gracious,
Slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.
He will not always strive with us,
Nor will He keep His anger forever.
10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor punished us according to our iniquities.
11 For as the heavens are high above the earth,
So great is His mercy toward those who fear Him;
12 As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.
Psalm 103:8-12
 
He forgives me and has removed my transgressions as far as the east is from the west.  How can that be? How can God possibly love me so much that He forgives ME?!
 
Because He’s faithful, and just, and I’m His daughter.
 
Do you struggle with forgiveness like I do? Do you struggle to forgive others like you have been forgiven? Do you struggle with understanding what forgiveness really looks like? Do you struggle with understanding Gods forgiveness towards you? I pray that you will ask God to help you forgive those who have hurt you, even if they aren’t sorry, even if they keep messing up.  I also pray that you will be able to see, and accept His forgiveness towards you.   
 
In His Love,
Rosalynn

 
 

 
 

 
 

 

About Rosalynn Lasley

I’ve been happily married to my high school sweetheart more years of my life than believable. It’s true what they say, time flies when you’re having fun. God has blessed us with 4 children, 3 we have the pleasure of raising, and one waiting for us in Heaven.

I have always enjoyed writing but my call to ministry came during some of my most difficult times thus far. Writing for Alaska Christian Women’s Ministry helped me start to make sense of all that God has been walking me through, even when sometimes it’s messy and painful. I never realized that telling my story, even the ugly parts, could be encouraging to other women until I started writing. It’s true that God will make beauty from ashes, you just have to let Him.

My writing is often serious, and sometimes heavy in nature, but in real life I’m usually the complete opposite of serious. I LOVE TO LAUGH, and say that humor is my unofficial spiritual gift. I’m fairly awkward when first meeting someone, but if I can make you laugh then I think we’ll end up being excellent friends. I’m certain that my husband is the only person on earth that doesn’t think I’m all that funny. If I can make him laugh, I’m a happy girl!

I have the blessing of serving in the junior high ministry at my local church, and find it such a joy hanging out with those smelly young people, week after week. They bless my heart far more than I could ever bless theirs in the short amount of time we meet each week.

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