Married on Monday!!

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“…for thou shalt forget the shame of thy youth and shalt not remember the reproach of thy widowhood any more.
For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.
For the Lord hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when thou wast refused, saith thy God.”  Isaiah 54:4b-6
For years I had a bittersweet relationship with Sundays.  Church day.  Until I was saved at 22 years old, church meant nothing and I had no desire EVER to go to church.  Salvation changed that, and I love my church.  Going, however, I was reminded every weekend and on Wednesdays that I had an unsaved husband.  There were often times when going to church was my sanctuary from the difficulties at home. And yet, walking through the doors into the church foyer, there was ALWAYS the awareness that I was a woman without a saved husband.  I reeked with aloneness.  Every conversation with the “church people” had a measure of emptiness as there was no one at my side, no one pulling the car up to the curb to pick me up so I did not have to walk in the rain, or get my shoes filled with snow, or get into a cold unheated car in the dead of winter. I know that sounds small and petty, but it was those sort of things that husbands do for wives that can make your life so sweet. Kindness from a man is a gift from God… As would be expected, there were many conflicts, miss-steps, selfishnesses of which I was guilty – for all I wanted was to be united in Christ with my one-flesh man. The “reproach of my widowhood” permeated our lives. There is no communion between darkness and light, and I felt the “gap” in every area of our marriage.  Resentment towards my unsaved husband began to take root, and on top of everything else, I began to be weighed down by bitterness. As I have mentioned before, it is the Word of God that teaches me how I am supposed to think. My perspective, when unchanged by His Word is always wrong. Other people may have it all together, but I do not.  Anyway, the above quoted verse(s) opened my eyes.  Yes, I was alone and there was a significant reproach to that status.  But, God’s Word said that I will forget that someday.  There was (is) hope!  Also, and more significantly, My MAKER is my husband! My REDEEMER, the HOLY ONE, the CREATOR is MY HUSBAND!!! He was the one Who could truly love me.  He was the One that covered me in prayer, that would guide my steps, that would meet my every need.  It was not possible for my earthly husband to meet the deepest needs of my heart anyway.  God showed me that I was expecting my husband to do those things for me that only God COULD do. I was actually putting my husband in God’s place by expecting John to be preoccupied with my well being. I asked God to forgive me for such idolatry and I freed John from my impossible expectations and turned to God as my husband. I do have the perfect husband.  And I love Him dearly.  He is the best. There is no reproach in that relationship!
Are you struggling in you marriage?  Well, maybe you need to marry the right person!!  There is ONE who loves you so much….Marry Him and free your poor human husband from the chains of your expectations!! 

In Christ as His Bride,


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One of a special number of beautiful women who write special guest posts! We are all Christ-lovers, moms, wives, and even some grandmothers!

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