Tell Me About Your Daddy Part Two

Rosalynn LasleyPrayer & Fasting, Redemption0 Comments

Over the last several days since my previous blog post, I have done a lot of reflecting and praying.  It has been difficult for me to really dig deep into the truth about who God is as a Father, and not think about my own dad.  The reflection and prayer have had me making notes of where some of my emotional scars have been left behind by my earthly dad, as well as it has caused me to face how those scars have hindered or skewed how I have viewed God along the way.  It is still a process at times.  There are still times the scars I have cause me to struggle to trust Him, but reminding myself of His truth gets me back on track every time. 

This week I want to discuss God’s promises, and the fact that He always shows up. 

Growing up, I had a dad that would constantly make promises he didn’t keep.  I don’t know if he made them knowing he would never keep them, or if he was one of those people that had good intentions but lacked the follow through.  He wasn’t around often enough for me to know.  I learned the hard way that you couldn’t take anything he said to heart, and that seeing was believing with him.  I learned that pretty much everything he ever said was too good to be true.  When I was in 4th grade, my dad sat me on his lap, told me how proud he was of me, and told me all about President Grant.  The point behind that was that President Grant was on the $50 bill, and if I could keep good grades (I can’t remember now if it was straight A’s or if it was A’s and B’s) that Grant was all mine.  We shook on it, and I kept my grades up.  Time passed, and eventually we reached the end of the school year.  I kept up my end of the deal, but he never did.  It may seem like a small insignificant thing but its just one of many examples where ultimately his word meant nothing. I could do everything I knew how to hold up my end of the bargain, but it wasn’t enough.  A promise meant nothing coming from my dad even if it wasn’t related to my efforts, and eventually it trained my heart to not take any promises seriously.  This included promises from God. I have ended up with a faith that contradicts biblical example.  I have walked by sight, and not by faith. I have needed to see God follow through time and time again, before I could trust His word, and His promises to me.

My dad was one who also failed to show up.  He would say he was coming, and then never did.  One time that stands out the most to me was my “sweet 16” birthday.  My birthday party wasn’t anything elaborate as far as parties are concerned, but it was meaningful to me.  I’d venture to say that many American kids look forward to their 16th birthday.  Maybe it’s over glamorized, but when you’re the one turning 16, it’s a pretty big deal.  For my birthday party we went to a local park, had a big barbeque, and played games and celebrated with my friends and family.  No matter how many people came out to celebrate my birthday with me, a piece was missing.  I looked over my shoulder a majority of the time waiting for him to show up.  Then he did, just long enough to drive through the parking lot without stopping, he didn’t even slow down.  I was crushed.  My own dad ditched my birthday party.  My parents weren’t in a relationship at that point in my life so it wasn’t like I would see him at home later.  The most I saw of my dad on my 16th birthday, in front of all of my friends, was his tail-lights.  Once again, he didn’t show up. That was over 15 years ago, and it still stings.  I have never been able to listen to the song “Just another birthday” by Casting Crowns without getting teary eyed.  (Sixteen finds me blowing out candles and making wishes, and all around me is everyone but the one I’m wishing for. And he sent me flowers and gift-wrapped excuses from a daddy whose daughter wants to see him again. And I know, I know it’s just another birthday, but I guess I thought this would be the one when he would call me, see me hold me and free me, but it’s just another birthday and I’ll be fine.) Examples like this one left me doubting that God shows up when He says He will, when I need Him, when something is a big deal to me.  Am I worth more than just the tail-lights in His eyes?

Please let me stop here and say I AM NOT PERFECT.  I have made promises that I have not kept.  I am not proud of that, but I am human (and so is my dad) but the point I’m trying to make is that when we draw our perspective of who God is, from a fallible human example, we’re going to get it twisted, skewed, and wrong. If my daughters drew their perspective of who God is, from who I am as a human, they will have an inaccurate view of who God REALLY is.  Even when I try my best to love them, and parent them the way He would want me to I don’t measure up to Him.  None of us do.  That doesn’t excuse us from trying, but the truth is the only way we can get a real, pure view of who God is as our Daddy with a capital “D”, is from God Himself, and from His word. 

The bible is FULL of promise after promise.  These promises aren’t just spoken promises, they are fulfilled promises, and they happened over and over again.  Over the last week I have thought many times about how blessed we are to be on this side of the bible.  I thought about when the promises were made to Abraham and Sarah regarding Isaac, and eventually the many nations.  They had to wait a long time for those promises to be fulfilled.  We get the blessing in seeing how the story ends but Abraham and Sarah didn’t.  They had nothing more than Gods word to go on.  Gods promises seemed utterly impossible, yet He promised, and He kept His word. 

18 Then the Lord appeared to him by the terebinth trees of Mamre,[a] as he was sitting in the tent door in the heat of the day. So he lifted his eyes and looked, and behold, three men were standing by him; and when he saw them, he ran from the tent door to meet them, and bowed himself to the ground, and said, “My Lord, if I have now found favor in Your sight, do not pass on by Your servant. Please let a little water be brought, and wash your feet, and rest yourselves under the tree. And I will bring a morsel of bread, that you may refresh your hearts. After that you may pass by, inasmuch as you have come to your servant.”They said, “Do as you have said.” So Abraham hurried into the tent to Sarah and said, “Quickly, make ready three measures of fine meal; knead it and make cakes.” And Abraham ran to the herd, took a tender and good calf, gave it to a young man, and he hastened to prepare it. So he took butter and milk and the calf which he had prepared, and set it before them; and he stood by them under the tree as they ate. Then they said to him, “Where is Sarah your wife?” So he said, “Here, in the tent.” 10 And He said, “I will certainly return to you according to the time of life, and behold, Sarah your wife shall have a son.” (Sarah was listening in the tent door which was behind him.) 11 Now Abraham and Sarah were old, well advanced in age; and Sarah had passed the age of childbearing.[b] 12 Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, “After I have grown old, shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?” 13 And the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh, saying, ‘Shall I surely bear a child, since I am old?’ 14 Is anything too hard for the Lord? At the appointed time I will return to you, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son.  Genesis 18:1-14 NKJV
(Promise)
 
21 And the Lord visited Sarah as He had said, and the Lord did for Sarah as He had spoken. For Sarah conceived and bore Abraham a son in his old age, at the set time of which God had spoken to him. And Abraham called the name of his son who was born to him—whom Sarah bore to him—Isaac. Then Abraham circumcised his son Isaac when he was eight days old, as God had commanded him. Now Abraham was one hundred years old when his son Isaac was born to him. And Sarah said, “God has made me laugh, and all who hear will laugh with me.” She also said, “Who would have said to Abraham that Sarah would nurse children? For I have borne him a son in his old age.  Genesis 21:1-7 NKJV
(God Showed Up)


That’s not the only promise God made and kept in the bible. What about when God told Abraham to sacrifice Isaac? Isaac was that precious son Abraham and Sarah waited SO long for?  God showed up at exactly the perfect time, and brought a ram for Abraham to sacrifice instead. What about Moses? What about Joseph? What about Hannah? What about Daniel in the lions den, or Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego in the fiery furnace?

What about Jesus? 

Jesus was promised to us all LONG before He was born. 

Therefore the Lord Himself will give you a sign: Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a Son, and shall call His name Immanuel. Isaiah 7:14 NKJV
(Promise)
 
But while he thought about these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take to you Mary your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. 21 And she will bring forth a Son, and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.”22 So all this was done that it might be fulfilled which was spoken by the Lord through the prophet, saying: 23 “Behold, the virgin shall be with child, and bear a Son, and they shall call His name Immanuel,” which is translated, “God with us.24 Then Joseph, being aroused from sleep, did as the angel of the Lord commanded him and took to him his wife, 25 and did not know her till she had brought forth her firstborn Son.[a] And he called His name Jesus. Matthew 1:20-25
(God Showed Up)
 
The bible is FULL of promises we are able to see fulfilled to remind us that God keeps His word, God always shows up.  There are many times throughout the new testament as well where God makes and keeps promises, where God shows up.  There are promises He has made to you, and to me even now, not old testament promises, but here and now promises that He will keep, the struggle is in trusting Him to show up.  
 
If we are faithless, He remains faithful; He cannot deny Himself 
2 Timothy 2:13
 
The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us,[b] not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.
2 Peter 3:9
 
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
 
I pray that as you dig deeper into who God really is with me, you will take the time to truly get to know Him based on His word and action, no one elses.  Maybe you have the kind of dad who keeps his word and you can always count on.  Maybe you have the kind of dad who always shows up.  Thank the Lord for that quality in your own dad, it is a blessing to have a dad like that.  If your dad is similar to mine, I pray that you are able to forgive him, give grace if that is needed and that you will be able to separate your dads flaws from the One who is flawless. 
 
God keeps His promises, and He always shows up.  Don’t take my word for it, take His. 
 
 
 
In His Love,
 Rosalynn
 
 

 

About Rosalynn Lasley

I've been happily married to my high school sweetheart more years of my life than believable. It's true what they say, time flies when you're having fun. God has blessed us with 4 children, 3 we have the pleasure of raising, and one waiting for us in Heaven. I have always enjoyed writing but my call to ministry came during some of my most difficult times thus far. Writing for Alaska Christian Women's Ministry helped me start to make sense of all that God has been walking me through, even when sometimes it's messy and painful. I never realized that telling my story, even the ugly parts, could be encouraging to other women until I started writing. It's true that God will make beauty from ashes, you just have to let Him. My writing is often serious, and sometimes heavy in nature, but in real life I'm usually the complete opposite of serious. I LOVE TO LAUGH, and say that humor is my unofficial spiritual gift. I'm fairly awkward when first meeting someone, but if I can make you laugh then I think we'll end up being excellent friends. I'm certain that my husband is the only person on earth that doesn't think I'm all that funny. If I can make him laugh, I'm a happy girl! I have the blessing of serving in the junior high ministry at my local church, and find it such a joy hanging out with those smelly young people, week after week. They bless my heart far more than I could ever bless theirs in the short amount of time we meet each week.

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